Think about what you say “yes” and “no” to.
Do you find you always say yes to other people’s requests?
There are many good reasons to say yes to things, people, ideas but when we always say yes it can be less of a choice and more a habit or behaviour which is having an effect on our own wellbeing.
Have you ever said yes even though you really wanted to say no? How about putting off something you want to do in order not to feel you are letting someone else down?
Saying no can be challenging and it’s easy to come up with reason NOT to say no: It might upset someone, we are scared to, our own things don’t seem as important, we want to be thought well of at work….
You will probably have your own reasons you can add.
Saying no to something is not the same as saying “no” to everything. It doesn’t mean that you are negative, selfish or a bad person. Take each decision and see how you feel about it.
So what are some of the benefits to saying “No”?
- Saying “no” can be a way of saying yes, to ourselves, to something we want to do instead.
- Always agreeing can leave us feeling we don’t have a choice, always put upon and that can lead to frustration and resentment. Saying no from time to time helps release some of that pressure build up and reduces the chance of it coming out in a less controlled way, at the wrong time or with the wrong person.
- It’s a way of putting your own needs first. Your needs are just as important as those of others and it’s ok to acknowledge that. If you value yourself and your time then others will too.
- Sometimes pressure is good but when that reaching a point of being overwhelmed you can’t do everything to the best of your ability. Saying “no” can give you time and space to put the time and energy you need to into each task, event or priority. Helping you to do your best.
- When you know you can say “no” it means you can recognise the decision and saying “yes” becomes a positive choice rather than something we always
- It can take courage to say “no” but the more you practice the more comfortable you will become. Recognising your ability to say “no” will build resilience over time and this bravery can be applied to other areas of your life as well.